Dear Friends of Lumen, “As a moth gnaws a garment, so doth envy consume a [person].” St. John Chrysostom Don’t waste time and energy being envious of things that in the big picture really do not matter: good looks, material possessions, attractive personalities, etc… Rather, focus on the higher gifts, the deep virtues of others, and try to learn from them and imitate them, instead of trying to bring that person down! God bless,
Dear Friends of Lumen, “Youth is wild, and requires many governors, teachers, directors, attendants, and tutors; and after all these, it is a happiness if it be restrained. For as a horse not broken in, or a wild beast untamed, such is youth. But if from the beginning, from the earliest age, we fix it in good rules, much pains will not be required afterwards; for good habits formed will be to them as a law.” St. John Chrysostom It started with strict bedtimes that were enforced in grade school and this evolved into a strict curfew in High School on week-ends. My dad would always be at the door at 1130 PM to analyze my state of mind and ask a few questions to see my level of coherency. There was a deep Faith, and a loving discipline in our home and I am really grateful to my parents for going the extra mile in “forming” us! They taught me to respect them and God, and this foundation was fundamental and transformational for my adult life. God bless,
Dear Friends in Christ, I had the honor of burying a fallen Marine at Arlington National Cemetery several years ago. I was disheartened that many of the folks who attended the funeral did not approach the young group of Marines (his friends) to thank them for their service. I did. I thanked them for their service to our country and promised them my prayers. The number below from the Catechism of the Catholic Church might be helpful. Let’s pray for all of our fallen soldiers and their families today! 2310 Public authorities, in this case, have the right and duty to impose on citizens the obligations necessary for national defense. Those who are sworn to serve their country in the armed forces are servants of the security and freedom of nations. If they carry out their duty honorably, they truly contribute to the common good of the nation and the maintenance of peace. God bless,
Dear Friends of Lumen, “The ordinary acts we practice every day at home are of more importance to the soul than their simplicity might suggest.” St. Thomas More St. Therese of Lisieux is the patron saint of the missions even though she never left the convent. She would offer up little sacrifices for souls and one of her daily chores was to wash the pots and pans with a “difficult” sister. She said that she could “see Jesus walking amidst the pots and pans.” The little things done with love matter!! God bless,
Dear Friends of Lumen, “A quarrel between friends, when made up, adds a new tie to friendship, as experience shows that the callosity formed around a broken bone makes it stronger than before.” St. Francis de Sales Nothing beats a sincere apology from the heart. No “but’s”, no “justifications”, or added comments tacked on at the end of your statement. Just say, “I am really sorry. I was wrong and I should not have done that/said that…please forgive me.” Then the healing begins… God bless,
Dear Friends of Lumen, As parents what your kids most need from you is your love. They are not getting it at school, in sports or anywhere else…this unconditional, intense love can only come from mom and dad. When my mom and dad looked into my eyes, they communicated warmth and love, and it usually came with a smile. I could sense that their advice and even their punishments were motivated out of sincere love. Parents, please spend time praying each day, fill your heart with the love of Christ, and give this love to your kids!! God bless,
Dear Friends of Lumen, Last week over dinner with a family, I asked two of the teenage girls what would they consider to be the most important qualities of a best friend. Their list is below:
  1. Trustworthy/Loyal
  2. Optimistic and joyful (Not someone negative who will bring you down)
  3. Honest
  4. Funny
  5. Kind
*I believe when someone has an authentic and deep Faith, these qualities naturally flow out of that person. God bless,